It’s been couple days, more exactly couple weeks, the mongodb client program prcess could not go further because the sever’s bind_ip parameter was set to the local machine. Through days hunting for the method to reset this parameter, leafing googles, sending group emails, finnally, tonight in the mongodb group on IRC some guy said
use mongod –bind_ip 0.0.0.0
and he then append
SO, it works, otherwise this blog would not have been released, although the database sever only turns off the bind_ip option when it is started from cmdline, when started as dienst not work, it is somehow progress.